• Celebrating the Life of Tom Soter

    Oct 23, 2020, 7:00 PM US/Eastern


    Hello family and friends,
    Please join the Soter family in a Celebration of Tom’s Life on his birthday, Friday, October 23rd, 2020. As is the protocol in these times, we will be meeting virtually, on Zoom. Here are the details:

    Date: 10/23/20
    Time: 7pm-9pm ET/4pm-6pm PT
    Place: (Meeting ID: 643 890 2077)

    For many years Tom has been celebrating his birthday in California with Nick, Dora, Eva, Zoë and friends. His favorite way to celebrate was to gather friends and family and read aloud from his books. So we are inviting those who are interested to read a short passage or story from one of Tom’s many books and share briefly with us what you loved about him. Let us know ASAP if you would like to honor Tom in this way. If you’d prefer not to read, but want to say something brief, please let us know that as well. We have limited time for people to share, so there may not be space for everyone to speak on Friday. If we run out of time and you’d still like to say something, please add your messages of love and remembrance here on this site. This will be available for friends and family to see at any time.
    Lastly, please have a white candle with you for Friday’s event. We will light it together to celebrate Tom's birthday and a life well lived. 
    We hope to see you on Friday.
    Tom’s family.


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Memorial Created By
Eva Miranda

Tom Soter

October 23, 1956 - August 14, 2020

We created this memorial to celebrate the life of Tom Soter. Collecting your stories and memories here will offer us great comfort and hopefully be a source of connection for all of us who have known and loved Tom. Thank you for contributing to this lasting memorial.


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  • Nicholas Soter
    Nicholas Soter added 5 photo(s) to the memorial Tom Soter:
  • Anemona Hartocollis
    When I first moved to New York City, Tommy, my cousin, was my guide to the city. He had a movie-maker's flare for location, and chose all the places that you need to see, even if, or especially because, they are cliches of New York. We went to the Empire...  more
  • Alan Saly -- just put together this brief film of Tom reminiscing and talking about his family and his three oldest friends, of whom I was privileged to be one.
    Tom Soter, who passed away on August 14, 2020, was a good friend to three contemporaries - Alan Saly, Tom Sinclair, and Christian Doherty. In this interview he remembers his friends and some of the main themes of his life.
  • Eva Miranda
    Eva Miranda added 3 photo(s) to the memorial Tom Soter:
  • Eva Miranda
    Eva Miranda added 5 photo(s) to the memorial Tom Soter: