Memorial Created By
Claire Dugan

Jane Crabtree Stark

May 07, 1929 - March 14, 2020

Dear family and friends, please use this GatheringUs website to celebrate the life of Jane Crabtree Stark. A Pretty Song From the complications of loving you I think there is no end or return. No answer, no coming out of it. Which is the only way to love, isn't it? This isn't a playground, this...  see more

OBITUARY
Jane Crabtree Stark, 90 Long-time Aquebogue resident Jane Crabtree Stark died on March 14 after a short illness. She was 90. Stark was the widow of Judge Thomas Stark, who predeceased her in 2014. Stark was born in New York City and raised in Bronxville, N.Y. A graduate of The Ursuline School and the College of New Rochelle, she received a master of arts degree in English literature from the State University of New York at...  see more
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  • Ellen Stark
    We had a virtual toast to mom via Zoom last week. It was great to see so many cousins and nieces and nephews and hear stories about mom, including the funny ones. Thanks, everyone!
  • Kathy Tuchman
    Kathy Tuchman added 5 photo(s) to the memorial Jane Crabtree Stark:
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  • Kathy Tuchman
    Every Christmas when I was a child we would receive a gift from my Aunt Jane and Uncle Tom (even when we lived in England!) and it was always a board game. At the time I remember not being very excited but looking back now I have the best memories of...  more
  • Ellen Stark
    We had a very small funeral last Friday, with about a dozen friends and family sitting far apart in the church. For those who couldn't make it, here are the readings and songs. The first reading and the gospel are the same ones that were read at my...  more
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    • Ellen Stark
      Beth Dugan Father Larry did a lovely job. Sorry more family and friends couldn't be there, but we felt you in spirit.
      • April 3, 2020
  • Myles Duffy
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    • Myles Duffy
      Beth Dugan According to my mom, Papa Al was always serious at his daughters' weddings. P.S. I'm pretty sure mom made that dress.
      • April 3, 2020
  • Beth Dugan
    "..the effect of her being on those around her was incalculably diffusive: for the growing good of the world is partly dependent on unhistoric acts; and that things are not so ill with you and me as they might have been, is half owing to the number...  more
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    • Beth Dugan
      Beth Dugan When I first read this quote in Middlemarch many years ago I thought of my mom and it came back to me after she died.
      • April 3, 2020
  • Kelly Crummy
    Kelly Crummy added 2 photo(s) to the memorial Jane Crabtree Stark:
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    • Kelly Crummy
      Kelly Crummy There are so many memories of great times together with cousin Jane, who was not only a cousin but a close friend. She will be greatly missed. Love, Billy
      • March 20, 2020
    • Kelly Crummy
      Ellen Stark Thanks for sharing! I can't quite make out all the people sitting on the boat. Billy: are you the boy in the middle?
      • March 20, 2020
    • Kelly Crummy
      Beth Dugan Whoever they are, looks like they are having fun.
      • April 3, 2020
  • Christine Palmer
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  • Christine Palmer
    Aunt Jane in photos (with apologies to Lizzo:)

    Glasses off,
    touch up your lips
    how's Jane looking?
    Good as Hell!
  • Sally Hoskins
    I am writing in celebration of Jane Stark’s well-lived life. I have many warm memories of seeing her at New Amsterdam Singers concerts that Ellen performed in, as well as at drop-ins and lunches in Riverhead on summer weekends when I was lucky enough...  more
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    • Sally Hoskins
      Ellen Stark Thanks. I'm not sure the hollyhocks are still growing here -- maybe the deer like them too much? I'll find out soon. You can give me some seeds back in return.
      • March 20, 2020
  • Ellen Stark
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  • Ellen Stark
    Ellen Stark added 5 photo(s) to the memorial Jane Crabtree Stark:
    California vacation
    With Ann Stark
    Ireland/England vacation
    On the Penn Yan
  • Ellen Stark
    Ellen Stark added 1 photo(s) to the memorial Jane Crabtree Stark:
    Keeping Jack in the boat
    • Ellen Stark
      Beth Dugan Saving Jack from jumping overboard!
      • March 20, 2020
  • Anne Richard
    Anne Richard added 1 photo(s) to the memorial Jane Crabtree Stark:
  • Anne Richard
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  • Anne Richard
    Anne Richard added 5 photo(s) to the memorial Jane Crabtree Stark:
    Lions Show
    At Mattituck with Ellen
    The sisters at Anne and Will's wedding
    The Crabtree family
  • Ellen Stark
    Ellen Stark added 2 photo(s) to the memorial Jane Crabtree Stark:
    With cousin Rosemary
  • Ellen Stark
    Ellen Stark added 5 photo(s) to the memorial Jane Crabtree Stark:
    Rocking 70s style in the family room
    Outside the Louvre
    Lincoln Center
    Giverney
    Yeats' grave
    • Beth Dugan and Bob Richard reacted on this.
    • Ellen Stark
      Bob Richard When did your Mom go to Sligo?
      • March 18, 2020
    • Ellen Stark
      Beth Dugan Ellen is thinking about this. Maybe in the 1990s?
      • March 18, 2020
    • Ellen Stark
      Ellen Stark Just saw that the photo said 1993. Mom and dad loved going to Ireland, as you know from their eagerness to go to Seamus' christening
      • March 20, 2020
  • Jim and Lynne Murray
    Lynne and I are very sorry to hear this. Mrs. Stark always greeted us with such a warm welcome — at her home when the Dugans first met Lynne (and we first met Jack at 6 months!), at the beach house and especially her graciousness at our wedding, 20...  more
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    • Jim and Lynne Murray
      Beth Dugan She was a big fan of both of you, as well. Thanks!
      • March 17, 2020
  • Jack Dugan
    My grandmother was a fiercely loving, supportive woman. There was never a time that she greeted me without enthusiasm, whether it be throwing her arms around me when I walked through the door, thrusting a box of cookies at me, or her signature, "Oh...  more
  • Jack Dugan
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  • Claire Dugan
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  • Claire Dugan
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  • Claire Dugan
    One of the strongest associations I have with my grandma is actually feminism. She was old-fashioned in some ways (for example, she definitely is against vegetarianism), but she was also strong, smart, and really ahead of her time. She maintained her own...  more
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    • Claire Dugan
      Beth Dugan She was an interesting combination, as I guess we all are. She also got to a point in life where she wanted Crabtree included in her name.
      • March 16, 2020
  • Beth Dugan
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  • Claire Dugan
    Claire Dugan added 5 photo(s) to the memorial Jane Crabtree Stark:
  • Claire Dugan
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  • Claire Dugan
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