I have struggled for weeks as to what to write about someone who was one of my very best male friends for many years. Terry never focused on himself but always on getting to know others and to sincerely showed he was interested and cared about you. When Terry called me to tell me about his cancer the first time - I had just lost my own mom and had NO idea that in just a few short months my own daughter would be diagnosed with terminal cancer. I don't know what I would have done without Terry during the year I cared for my daughter out of state. He never focused on his own situation - but stayed in touch that year with me and was such an encouragement. He had so much knowledge after his own treatment and called me weekly to not only check on my daughter - but to check on me knowing the challenges of being sole caregiver. Terry was the very definition of the word “gentleman “ - he truly was in every way. We had so many fun dinners out, deep and intellectual conversations and debates, outings to the ballet and the theater, and many, many dances over the years - always with that big Terry smile on his face! When I was in a horrific car accident in 2010 - Terry "braved" driving me all over So Cal to test drive cars and helped me buy the one I still drive today - always with that smile even though I terrorized him with my fearful driving! I have so many fun and sweet memories of Terry, and I sorely and sadly miss him. Keep a spot on Heaven's huge dance floor for me Terry - I know you will have a long line of ladies - and know you are already missed here. To Carol Chen and family - there are no words that adequately suffice here that I can say to take away the shock and pain of your loss, but know you are in my thoughts and prayers for comfort and strength through the grief journey. Terry will never be forgotten...