We created a GatheringUs memorial to celebrate the life of Kris Clarke. Collecting your stories and memories here will offer us great comfort. As we plan a virtual gathering, we will share details here. Thank you for contributing to this lasting memorial.
I met Kris nearly 30 years ago as “Greg’s mom,” crossing paths at our local day care. It wasn’t long before our family (David and Ann Ross), the Ellises (Reed and Ursula) and the Clarkes gathered regularly together to enjoy home cooked dinners... moreI met Kris nearly 30 years ago as “Greg’s mom,” crossing paths at our local day care. It wasn’t long before our family (David and Ann Ross), the Ellises (Reed and Ursula) and the Clarkes gathered regularly together to enjoy home cooked dinners at each other’s homes. I took it as a compliment that Kris sometimes tried out new recipes on us—comfortable in the knowledge that one and all would declare the dish “delicious!”thus wiping out whatever hesitancy she might have had beforehand. Meals were followed by stimulating conversations covering our kid’s activities, the latest book recommendations, history, and politics. Joe and Reed were known to offer up opinions/make statements simply to get a rise out of the rest of us. Ursula—in spite of her better judgment—sometimes rose to the bait, while Kris was more likely to simply roll her eyes or shake her head at Joe’s comments. The families gathered annually to carve pumpkins followed by hot soup and apple cider. Those first years the dads took charge of the pumpkin carving while Kris and Ursula and I dipped into the munchies and started on the wine. Ten years later, ALL the adults began with snacks and wine while the kids wielded their own butcher knives—on the pumpkins and not each other. Each fall included a trip to a local orchard to pick apples for pies and applesauce—some years including a stop on the way home to purchase Gray Ghost wines. Kris returned from her mother’s house one year bringing me canning supplies which I still use every year in making applesauce and jams—sadly from our local farmers market, not from Virginia orchards. The shelf in my family room is graced by a bouquet of yellow (cloth) flowers, a Christmas gift from Kris. And, on occasion, I uncork a bottle of Kris, a pinot grigio that we often drank during those dinners. We raised our glasses then to health and happiness and in honor of whatever was most called for at the time. Henceforth I will always raise my glass in honor of Kris herself, remember her, and smile. less
28+ years of a wonderful friendship ended too early, but those years were full of get-togethers and celebrations complete with laughs; conversation about our kids, politics, and much more; serious, sometimes heated discussions too; great food; great... more28+ years of a wonderful friendship ended too early, but those years were full of get-togethers and celebrations complete with laughs; conversation about our kids, politics, and much more; serious, sometimes heated discussions too; great food; great libations, and more laughs. If too much time had elapsed between visits, Kris would call or I would call and say, "I need to laugh; let's get together." Kris was a great cook and always would make us feel special, from seating us at beautifully set tables to fixing artisan cocktails (competing with Joe's latest brew). And I likely won't surprise anyone when I say that Kris was also set on her course of action (stubborn might be another way of saying it). She would insist on doing the dishes when at my house, and I honestly couldn't budge her from in front of the sink. Yet, when I would try to help at her house--she said "Oh no," and moved me out of the way. I weighed more than she did!! I don't know how she did it. I don't back down that easily. Same would happen when I'd say, "Well, what can we bring?" "Oh, nothing. I have everything I need, and don't bring any wine either." When dinner was at our house, I'd say the same thing, but in she'd come with bags of goodies. I suppose that was Kris's "magic" - her unwavering friendship and support in good times and in bad. Here's to my dear friend Kris (I am having a glass of cheer). I'm writing for Reed as well. Thank you. less