Pat: I apologize for how long it has taken to write this, I am still in a state of shock. Tommy was my best friend in high school, we were together every day, so it was a given he would be my best man. (Who else would I want standing beside me on the most important day of my life? ) Constantly upbeat, infectiously good-natured, a glass-half-full type of guy, leading to a "glass-full" life. Pat, he absolutely adored you. I remember the first time I met you, he pulled me aside and told me, "this is the one", and nothing - nothing - changed over the next 30+ years. Tom was one of those guys that, if it was someone else you would be envious, but his graciousness, his exuberance, his love-of-life, made you happy for him. He was just so much fun to be around. I can't believe he is gone, and I mean that literally, there is part of me that refuses to accept this, that a life force as strong as this succumbed to a stupid bug. I am struggling to take solace in this being a temporary separation; we'll be playing golf and laughing in the next life. ( I suspect Tommy and Bobby are teeing off just about now.............)